As you become more clear about who you really are, you'll be better able to decide what is best for you - the first time around.
I remember a specific moment, watching my grandmother hang the clothes on the line, and her saying to me, 'you are going to have to learn to do this,' and me being in that space of awareness and knowing that my life would not be the same as my grandmother's life.
My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you I the best place for the next moment.
I'm sick of people sittin' in chairs stating their problems. Then we roll the videotape... then we have our experts on the topic... I'm in the 'What's next?' phase of my career.