It is healthier, in any case, to write for the adults one's children will become than for the children one's 'mature' critics often are.
I think coldness is chic among writers, and particularly ironic coldness. What is absolutely not allowable is sadness. People will do anything rather than to acknowledge that they are sad.
Catherine Keener really gets me. She and I have such a shorthand together.
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