For the most part, pianos are female to me. Sometimes they're dykes, and they're always good fun.
There are older men with younger women but you don't see a lot of older women with younger men. There are some women who have been able to do it but not often.
Take a different route to the coffee shop to see what you can see and hear. When we get in a routine, we can become zombie-like and shut down. It's about discipline. You have to push yourself.
When you're in your 20s, there's maybe a little room for you to not be at the top of your artistic game, if you look good on a magazine cover. When you're not on the cover of the magazines anymore, then you realize that the work has to be great.