I don't think you can come into your wisdom until you have made mistakes on your own skin and felt them in reality of your own life.
You know, even I have had work or ideas come through me from a source that I honestly cannot identify. And what is that thing? And how are we to relate to it in a way that will not make us lose our minds, but, in fact, might actually keep us sane?
I myself have never been enchanted by the dream of the white wedding, and, heaven help us, the expectation that this exquisitely catered event should be 'the happiest moment' of one's life.
If life gives you lemons, don't settle for simply making lemonade - make a glorious scene at a lemonade stand.