I started to get very well recognized in the early seventies as the only man in the United States who had been elected three times to the board of NOW in New York City.
I am always someone who follows the research more than my self-interest. It certainly has not been in my self-interest to defend men. I've gone from being quite wealthy, when I was defending women, to being quite poor defending men.
Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.
In fact, the socialization gives us the tools to fill our evolutionary roles. They are our building blocks.