I wish I had thrown out the bathroom scale at age 16. Weighing yourself every morning is like waking up and asking Dick Cheney to validate your sense of inner worth.
I do not have deep theological understanding or opinion, but I do not read the Bible as the literal word of God.
When we're dealing with the people in our family - no matter how annoying or gross they may be, no matter how self-inflicted their suffering may appear, no matter how afflicted they are with ignorance, prejudice or nose hairs - we give from the deepest parts of ourselves.
Some people won't go the extra mile, and then on their birthday, when no one makes a fuss, they feel neglected and bitter.