Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it's about earning approval and acceptance.
Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can't ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment's notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow - that's vulnerability.
One of the things I did when I discovered this huge importance of being vulnerable is very happily moved away from the shame research, because that's such a downer, and people hate that topic. It's not that vulnerability is the upside, but it's better than shame, I guess.
You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.
Charles F. Kettering