Once you're more aware of people's needs, you can create action plans for others to follow. That way, you're responsible for your own well-being, too.
As long as you think of your real self as the person you are, then of course you're going to be fearful of death. But what is a person? A person is a pattern of behavior, of a larger awareness. You know, the two-year-old dies before the three-year-old shows up, the three-year-old dies before the teenager shows up.
Enlightened leadership is spiritual if we understand spirituality not as some kind of religious dogma or ideology but as the domain of awareness where we experience values like truth, goodness, beauty, love and compassion, and also intuition, creativity, insight and focused attention.
So the universe is constantly moving in the direction of higher evolutionary impulses, creativity, abstraction, and meaning.