That saying, about how you always kill the thing you love, well, it works both ways.
I try to tell a story the way someone would tell you a story in a bar, with the same kind of timing and pacing.
My characters tend to be more dynamic because they're reaching that point in their lives where their old way of being is breaking down. They're conflicted by the idea that they don't know what's next. You could call it Kierkegaard's leap of faith, when you get tired of sort of reinventing yourself on a very superficial level.
When I was little, my grandma used to get romance novels, and she would get hundreds of these, and she'd read a dozen a month.
T. D. Jakes