There is not a formula for the way that God heals. There's not a timetable.
I know my own weaknesses as a human being, and as a musician, as a singer and as a woman.
I've found that music allows years to fold like an accordion over each other, so I guess you don't feel the passage of time as much.
Depending on what day of the week it is and what time of the month it is, I'm a good friend or not a good friend. I'm more or less a good mom or not a good mom, more or less a good mate or not a good mate. That's just life, whether or not you're public.