We really only have two choices. Play it safe, or take a chance. For me, pulling back because of fear has always made me feel worse.
I found that female pathfinders generally integrate characteristics commonly associated with being women - like the capacity to be intimate - with 'male' ones like ambition and courage.
When men reach their sixties and retire, they go to pieces. Women go right on cooking.
If you're the person living closest to the parent who's going to need help, and you take on the whole role of primary caregiver, you can be pretty sure your sibling who lives farthest away is going to call you and say, 'You don't know what you're doing.' Because they're not on the spot, and they probably feel guilty.